
‘So do not use the pain-body to give you an identity. Use it for enlightenment instead. Transmute it into consciousness.’
Eckhart Tolle
So often we become unconscious in our relationships and miss opportunities to bring consciousness into them. We become trapped in the cycle of shifting responsibility, blame and guilt.
Whenever we find ourselves within conflict in our relationships we can so easily pause and remember this cycle.
RESPONSIBILITY – BLAME – GUILT
When we bring this to mind and choose to be really honest with ourselves by asking ourselves what is it that we are not claiming responsibility for we can instantly bring consciousness into the situation.
In the first instance we may find ourselves saying ‘But they did this to me’ or ‘they said they would do this and didn’t’ but by choosing to become present you will find that there is something that you are not taking responsibility for.
You may not see it at first; you may not want to as the power of the ego can be temporarily quite satisfying.
Every conflict in relationships is bringing to the surface something that can be addressed and in turn strengthen and grow your relationships. By choosing to focus on what you are ‘doing’ rather than what is being ‘done’ to you, you instantly remove any room for victimisation.
You become proactive rather than reactive.
Whenever you start to blame someone you are in relationship with for something, this is a sign that there is something you have not taken responsibility for and are trying to shift that responsibility onto the other person. You then blame them in an effort to relinquish yourself from any responsibility... or you play the victim.
If they are also in this cycle of unconsciousness they will then try to defend themselves and shift responsibility back to you. It is a no win situation. The issue needs to be addressed and as Tolle write ‘Transmuted into consciousness.’
You are then creating guilt, which is where you are able to hide the fact that you shifted responsibility successfully... or so you think.
This is really a very simple approach to take with your relationships.
Awareness is the first step!
Happy Manifesting!
Julieanne





