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Thursday, 14 January 2010

Present Patterns

‘So do not use the pain-body to give you an identity. Use it for enlightenment instead. Transmute it into consciousness.’

Eckhart Tolle

So often we become unconscious in our relationships and miss opportunities to bring consciousness into them. We become trapped in the cycle of shifting responsibility, blame and guilt.

Whenever we find ourselves within conflict in our relationships we can so easily pause and remember this cycle.


When we bring this to mind and choose to be really honest with ourselves by asking ourselves what is it that we are not claiming responsibility for we can instantly bring consciousness into the situation.

In the first instance we may find ourselves saying ‘But they did this to me’ or ‘they said they would do this and didn’t’ but by choosing to become present you will find that there is something that you are not taking responsibility for.

You may not see it at first; you may not want to as the power of the ego can be temporarily quite satisfying.

Every conflict in relationships is bringing to the surface something that can be addressed and in turn strengthen and grow your relationships. By choosing to focus on what you are ‘doing’ rather than what is being ‘done’ to you, you instantly remove any room for victimisation.

You become proactive rather than reactive.

Whenever you start to blame someone you are in relationship with for something, this is a sign that there is something you have not taken responsibility for and are trying to shift that responsibility onto the other person. You then blame them in an effort to relinquish yourself from any responsibility... or you play the victim.

If they are also in this cycle of unconsciousness they will then try to defend themselves and shift responsibility back to you. It is a no win situation. The issue needs to be addressed and as Tolle write ‘Transmuted into consciousness.’

You are then creating guilt, which is where you are able to hide the fact that you shifted responsibility successfully... or so you think.

This is really a very simple approach to take with your relationships.

Awareness is the first step!

Happy Manifesting!



黑色皮包 said...

Many a true word is spoken in jest...................................................

Pokagon Member said...

bohzo (hello)

These things you say are very true, have a great day!


I enjoyed looking over your blog
God bless you

CHULA said...


Julieanne said...

Hi Everyone!

Thank you for your comments. I am enjoying getting to know you better :)

Many Blessings,


Bob West said...

God has greatly gifted you
I enjoyed visiting your blog
God Bless;

Rizal Affif said...

Hi Julianne, you've got a wonderful blog. I'd love to put it on my list :)

Anyway, I fully agree that in a relationship, both needs to work as co-creator, not as an actor and a victim :)

Anyway, I think this blog can be better if you're willing to clean up those spams... it'll be much more comfortable to the readers. IMO, though :)

Katie said...

Hi Julieanne,

I am a cult survivor. I find this site interesting. Does any of this require a person to accept a Guru?

I am interested in meditation and self development but I do not want to be involved with anything that is "all knowing". Do you just explore different books and teachings?


Julieanne said...

Hi Rizal

Thank you for your kind words. I will keep that in mind :)

Many Blessings,


Julieanne said...

Hi Katie!

Thank you so much for visiting. I appreciate where you are coming from. There are no gurus here. I just work to share insights that I have come across on my spiritual journey.

I do have a forum which has members from all different faityhs and walks of life. We are just focussing on what we can learn from each other. If you would like to visit you would be very welcome.

We do have a group that shares different meditations along with other groups that are thought provoking and uplifting. I hope to maybe see you there some time :)

Many Blessings,


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